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Category: Culture

Honour and promises

Came across this post was in my RSS feeds last night — it made me pause and think. I was still thinking about it this morning on my commute to work. It’s by Jake Adelstein, author of Tokyo Vice.

There Are No Small Promises:

Even when we realize that we’ve made shortsighted, foolish, or difficult promises–it’s doesn’t nullify the promise. If we could retroactively change every promise we didn’t like or wish we hadn’t made—a vow wouldn’t mean anything at all. Of course, it’s hard to learn to not make those promises in the first place. Maybe that’s even harder than keeping a promise, learning the gravitas of our words. But when you break them, no matter how foolish they might have been–if you don’t at least regret it and ponder it, you haven’t yet learned anything. And ultimately that lack of regret makes a person untrustworthy and prone to do it again. People remember every missed appointment, every casually promised thing not delivered, or book not returned. Just as they remember every little favor you have done, or kindness you have bestowed upon them, or little promise to them that you kept.  These all add up when we judge a person and ourselves and how others judge us as well.  And if they don’t, they should.

Pwnt.

From today’s xkcd:

We have met the enemy and he is us.

BRILLIANT.

Ugh.

This ad stopped me in my tracks yesterday, and not for positive reasons.

25052009550webWith the Aware EGM still fresh on people’s minds and the subsequent fallout still occurring, it’s hard not to draw the connection to the tagline. If it wasn’t meant to be a reference, the timing is still unfortunate and its message still left me feeling disturbed.

The ad is just one in a long line of ads and products that continually condescend women in their attempt to sell to them. The campaigns and product ideas often ring hollow and sicken me, even if they attempt to be tongue-in-cheek or cynical.

Stereotyping women negatively –  that women only care about shopping and turn violent and aggressive over things on discount. Surely I have encountered such people, but it isn’t just the women who are rude and nasty.

Reinforcing the misogynist idea that women should not be aggressive, but instead and nicely primped and soft spoken. Fighting makes you ugly! Anger will give you wrinkles! Here, buy this anti-wrinkle cream!

Indulgence in materialism is the key to buying some modicum of happiness — or should that be world peace?

Underneath this, there is a strong implicit notion that because you are a woman, all of your problems can be remedied by trips to the mall, shoes, or chocolate.

While we’re on the topic, I’d like to add that as a woman, I have no interest in: pink gadgets, pink appliances — as if I could never use a wok that’s black — flowers and ruffles, sparkles, chocolate-whatever, calorie-counting tools, references to Sex And The City, etc. I don’t need to have objects covered in pink glitter or a photo of Sarah Jessica Parker holding the object to be able to tell that I am supposed to buy them. Thank you very much.

A culture I won’t take for granted.

I wish I knew more about Chinese folk practices and religion. Recently, I ran some searches online and found that most of the sources of information are written in Chinese. There are very few good ones in English. Even then, there weren’t many sources that addressed Singapore/Malaysian Chinese practices, either. What ever I learnt was passed down orally to me by my parents, and over the generations the information is diluted. I know some ideas behind certain rituals, but I never understood the full story.

The practices of Taoism and Buddhism overlap sometimes, and the lines between religion and folk rituals are blurred, too. Taoism as we colloquially understand it to be is different from Taoism as described in the books written in English for a Western audience. As ethnic Chinese in S.E. Asia, our culture has assimilated certain aspects that have altered it from the Chinese culture of mainland China, too.

In my previous job, the premises’ terrace overlooked a carpark just behind the building. Every year, a tent with an altar set up for the 7th lunar month would be erected there, complete with a hired puppet troupe. And amidst all that going on, I could hear the strains of evening prayer projected through the speakers of the nearby mosque. The area was never glitzy or quiet, it sometimes bordered on sleazy — but it was never boring. From where the office was, we could sometimes see fights break out on the coffee-shop corner, strange kooks, drama, even outrageous accidents.

Today is the first day of the Seventh Month festival, which is also known as the ghost festival. The seventh month of the lunar calendar is a period during which the Chinese believe that the gates of the underworld will open, allowing the ghosts and spirits of the deceased to visit the human realm. I’ve never given it much thought, but I’ve come to appreciate the presence of getai, the night auctions, the hustle-bustle. When I was younger, we lived in an old housing estate, and I used to hear the auctions going on in Hokkien at night. It was always a source of amusement to hear the prices go up and up and the people’s cheers following the raising of bids.

We don’t see the puppet shows and wayang so much nowadays — put up for deities’ celebrations — but I’ve always liked watching them when I was a child. I would ask many many questions and I found the costumes and painted faces really cool, I wanted to imitate them. As we moved away from the older estate, my contact with these street performances lessened, too. It’s easy to forget about them. I’d only had a re-kindling of interest when a Taoist temple in my neighbourhood held a street parade to mark their opening — we all leaned out of the windows of our flat to get a better view.

The Chinese folk rituals and religion seems to be practiced here mainly by the blue-collar and older segment of the population, the people who speak primarily Mandarin or Chinese dialects, or what is often called “the heartlanders” (I dislike that word very much). It’s sometimes scoffed at for being superstition or something unfashionably out-dated; it’s been parodied, joked, derided for being heathen… It’s been exoticised by people who see only the surface of it, the lure of something “oriental” and pagan. Even up till recently, I never liked it that much myself. I thought it unpleasant, inconvenient, something that I just had to go through as my parents wished it. I’ve had arguments with my parents about it. But now, I look beyond the haze of the incense smoke, and I see something so rich and fascinating, I wish it will continue to be practiced for a long, long time to come. It’s not about my personal religious beliefs, but an aspect of our identity and culture.

Perception Torn From Thinking

From the book Visual Thinking by Rudolph Arnheim:

By the time the competition for college placement becomes acute, it is a rare high school that insists on reserving for the arts the time needed to make their practice at all fruitful. Rarer still is the institution at which a concern with the arts is consciously justified by the realization that they contribute indispensably to the development of a reasoning and imaginative human being. This educational blackout persists in college, where the art student is considered as pursuing separate and intellectually inferior skills, although any “major” in one of the more reputable academic areas is encouraged to find “healthy recreation” in the studio during some of his spare hours. The arts for which the bachelor and master are certified do not yet include the creative exercise of the eyes and hands as an acknowledged component of higher education.

The arts are neglected because they are based on perception, and perception is disdained because it is not assumed to involve thought. In fact, educators and administrators cannot justify giving the arts and important position in the curriculum unless they understand that the arts are the most powerful means of strengthening the perceptual component without which productive thinking is impossible in any field of endeavor. The neglect of the arts is only the most tangible symptom of the widespread unemployment of the senses in every field of academic study. What is most needed is not more aesthetics or more esoteric manuals of art education but a convincing case made for visual thinking quite in general. Once we understand in theory, we might try to heal in practice the unwholesome split which cripples the training of reasoning power.